151. Build Self-Confidence: My Wall of Confidence

Build self-confidence: my Wall of Confidence

Building self-confidence: Reza Mehman explains how to become more confident with his personal “Wall of Confidence”. He also shares an honest story about self-doubt shortly before his own event, Dinner im Schloss.

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Build self-confidence with a Wall of Confidence

Successful people experience self-doubt too. Reza Mehman shares an honest story: shortly before his own event, Dinner im Schloss, he thought: “I cannot manage all of this.” His response was the Wall of Confidence, a collection of turning points when he had to perform under pressure and succeeded. His three steps towards greater self-confidence are to respect yourself, keep the promises you make to yourself and build your Wall of Confidence.

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Summary

In one sentence: Reza Mehman explains how the Wall of Confidence works and why even successful people need to work regularly on their self-confidence.

In three sentences: Shortly before his event Dinner im Schloss, Reza felt: “I cannot manage all of this.” His response was the Wall of Confidence, a collection of moments when he had performed successfully under pressure. His three steps are to respect yourself, keep your promises and build a Wall of Confidence.

In five sentences: Even after five years of Project Mindset and many conversations with successful people, Reza knows that self-confidence does not come automatically. Shortly before Dinner im Schloss, he thought: “This is getting too big for me.” His response was the Wall of Confidence, a collection of turning points when he had performed successfully under pressure. To build greater self-confidence, he offers three steps: respect yourself, keep promises to yourself and build a Wall of Confidence. His message is: “Remind yourself of what you have already achieved in life.”

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Context: who, what and why

Who is speaking: Reza Mehman, in a solo mindset talk.

What it is about: How to build greater self-confidence with a Wall of Confidence.

Why it matters: Self-confidence is not automatic, even for successful people. Reza shows how he actively builds and maintains it.

Three steps towards greater self-confidence:

1. Respect yourself. Do not put yourself down, even in your thoughts.
2. Keep the promises you make to yourself.
3. Build your Wall of Confidence.

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Contents

1. Introduction
2. Summary
3. Context
4. Themes and perspectives
5. Key takeaways
6. Frequently asked questions
7. Standout quotations
8. Transcript from the original article
9. Keywords
10. Names and terms
11. A passage to quote

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Themes and perspectives

1. Self-confidence is not automatic
After five years of Project Mindset and many conversations with politicians, athletes and entrepreneurs, Reza knows that self-confidence does not arrive automatically. Successful people experience self-doubt too.
Keywords: self-confidence, self-doubt, success, mindset

2. The story: Dinner im Schloss
Shortly before Dinner im Schloss, Reza thought: “This is getting too big for me.” He had to host the event, speak in front of everyone and make decisions, and he felt: “I cannot manage all of this.”
Keywords: Dinner im Schloss, event, self-doubt, pressure, hosting

3. The Wall of Confidence
Reza’s solution is the Wall of Confidence, a collection of turning points when he had to perform under pressure and succeeded. These moments remind him: “I have made it through stressful situations before, so I will handle this too.”
Keywords: Wall of Confidence, turning points, pressure, performance, self-confidence

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Key takeaways

• Self-confidence does not come automatically, even to successful people.
• Shortly before Dinner im Schloss, Reza thought: “This is getting too big for me.”
• His three steps towards greater confidence are to respect yourself, keep your promises and build a Wall of Confidence.
• The Wall of Confidence is a collection of turning points: moments when you had to perform under pressure and succeeded.
• Reza says: “I have made it through stressful situations before, so I will handle this too.”
• Record the decisive turning points, not just your biggest achievements.
• Reza says: “Remind yourself of what you have already achieved in life.”
• For Reza, the Wall of Confidence provides an enormous boost in self-confidence.

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Frequently asked questions

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Standout quotations

“I have made it through stressful situations, really stressful situations, and handled them successfully. So I will handle this successfully too.”

— Reza Mehman

“Build your Wall of Confidence. Do not just record the big things you have achieved; write down those turning points.”

— Reza Mehman

“Remind yourself of what you have already achieved in life. For me, it provides an incredible boost to go through life with greater confidence.”

— Reza Mehman

“Self-confidence does not come automatically, even after many years in the game.”

— Reza Mehman

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Transcript from the original article

Introduction: three steps towards greater self-confidence

Reza Mehman:

So how do you build your self-confidence? From my perspective, it is quite simple. First, respect yourself and do not put yourself down, not even in your thoughts. Second, keep the promises you have made to yourself. Third is actually my favourite tip for greater self-confidence: build yourself a Wall of Confidence.

Self-confidence is not automatic

Reza Mehman:

Hi everyone, and welcome to Project Mindset. My name is Reza, and in today’s podcast episode I want to talk about how you can develop greater self-confidence. If you think successful people automatically have more confidence, I can tell you something. After five years of Project Mindset and many conversations with highly successful people, politicians, athletes and entrepreneurs, I can say: no, that is not the case. Even after many years in the game, whatever that game may be, whether business or sport, self-confidence is an important issue that you need to work on regularly.

The story: Dinner im Schloss

Reza Mehman:

Let me share a little story. For several years, I have been organising an event in Heidelberg called Dinner im Schloss. It always takes place at the end of April, and its fifth edition will be held in 2026. You could say I have developed a bit of a routine. It started very small, with relatively few people at the first event. After that, it grew quite quickly, and attendance became substantial. I think it was in 2023 or 2024 that I first felt: “Wow, this is really getting too big for me.”

That morning stays with me, or rather the feeling I had shortly before the event. I thought: “This is genuinely too much for me right now.” So many people were coming. I had to host throughout the day, speak in front of everyone, know all the content and keep people entertained. Somehow, everything came back to me, and I had to make a lot of decisions. For a moment, I genuinely felt that I could not manage it all.

The Wall of Confidence as a solution

Reza Mehman:

At my own event, the thought came to me that I needed to visualise everything I had already been through in life: the stressful, difficult periods and all the things I had experienced. I needed to consciously remind myself — and that awareness is part of self-confidence — that I had already made it through stressful situations, really stressful situations. I had handled them successfully, so I would handle this successfully too.

Reza Mehman:

If I can give you one tip today, it is this. I know self-confidence is a genuinely difficult subject, and it feeds into many other areas. But build your Wall of Confidence. Do not record only the big things you have achieved; write down those turning points. For example, a particular action was crucial to passing an exam or completing your degree. Another action was crucial to finding a new job. Or you handled a conversation or job interview well on a particular day, and that helped you land your dream job. Make yourself aware of those moments.

You could use a little notebook and write everything down, take photographs or do it digitally, whichever way helps you visualise it best. But keep a record of what you have already achieved in life. For me, it provides an incredible boost to go through life with greater confidence.

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Keywords

Tags: self-confidence, Wall of Confidence, mindset, turning points, Dinner im Schloss, self-doubt, success, Reza Mehman, Project Mindset

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Names and terms

Reza Mehman, Wall of Confidence, Dinner im Schloss, Heidelberg, turning points, self-confidence, self-doubt, Project Mindset, confidence

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A passage to quote

Reza Mehman: “Self-confidence does not come automatically, even to successful people.”
Shortly before Dinner im Schloss: “I cannot manage all of this.”
The Wall of Confidence is a collection of turning points when you had to perform under pressure.
“Build your Wall of Confidence, recording not just the big achievements but the decisive turning points.”
“Remind yourself of what you have already achieved in life.”

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Learn more about the event mentioned in this article on my Dinner im Schloss page. Find further mindset ideas in the Reza Mehman Podcast, formerly Project Mindset.